John Mayer sings...

I wonder sometimes
About the outcome
Of a still verdictless life
Am I living it right?

At 25 - a commonly accepted age for the onset of quarter life crisis, I do wonder.

Living it right? My say:

It’s about choosing whoever you are. No waking up and not recognizing the person in the mirror, less whining about all the people who “make my life this way”. People try, but you make your life - no one can or wants to take that responsibility away.

It’s about debunking myths, while existing within them. Society in my view (especially the middle class Malaysian one) seems to think that there are only two types of young people - The Ones Who Toe the Line, and The Ones Who well, Don't. The former usually perceived to be more successful albeit rather boring, and the latter less likely to have the 'good job' although possibly more exciting hobbies. We have to have the courage to believe that these “quadrants” don’t exist. In-betweens do, and it is always the person that makes the job or lifestyle, never vice-versa.

It’s about acting. Action segregates the inspirers from the never-quite-theres. Translate your ideals into something tangible - small as it may be, or sit and gather dust with it on the shelf. It is a lonely place with echoes of past audiences, memories of those who believed in you, and a great view of the world passing by.

It’s about growing, reaching for new experiences instead of rehashing old triumphs. Friendships too - let’s go for a beer and talk about something you really want to say. Let’s be able to say “You’ve changed somewhat from what I remember, but so have I. I’ll get to know you now”.

So. After all this talk you ask "What about you, Little-Miss-Philosophy?"

Is my life still verdictless? Yes.

Do I remember though, all the things which I want to be? Everyday.

Will I get there? Baby steps now in unchartered waters, but yes. Yes.