Quote of the Day

"Love simply, Live fully"

Some time back I was listening to MY FM and heard the DJ/guest artiste (can't remember now) saying in Mandarin of course, what largely translates into the above.

To me it's a brilliant adage, especially for young modern women like me, who tend to over-worry and over-think our lovelife and all its' intricacies and complexities, sometimes simply for lack of a more important thing to worry and think about.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think that we should hang it all - a man-woman relationship like any other is work, and even more so because it's easy to want to make excuses and take things for granted in the name of being "loved". And that happens both ways by the way, boys.

But to love simply is about not indulging neither him nor yourself, about knowing that since there are 2 people involved logically you can only get your way roughly 50% of the time, about picking your battles and not picking on your partner when you are having a bad day, about not turning little mistakes into character flaws, and about forgiving - just forgiving without putting in "but you-know-you-owe-me" tokens because it's just too bloody hard and pointless to keep tabs of those.

And to live fully, well now that...the possibilities are endless! And it's about being excited about YOURSELF. Once you free up all that time from over-worrying about your relationship there is so much more to discover and rediscover. And to make yourself whole so that yes, you may stand bettered by your partner but you will stand just great alone.

So, that's my take on this quote of the day.

P/S: I once explained this entire concept to a male friend before, after which he looked at me blankly and said "That's great Pei Wei, but the first thing that came to my mind was that it's about sleeping around and getting away with it. You know, love 'simply' as in like casually..and hence live 'fully' as in like getting to get laid often..hahahahaha"

Sigh..the male mind is something that we will discuss another day, shall we?